We got married...
We danced...
And we drove off expecting our happily every after...
What we found instead was a very rude awakening. Apparently, we weren't the people we each *expected* the other to be. He we had flaws and bad habits. Had it not been for the grace of God and an ever needed heart of forgiveness, we would never have made it through the first two years of married life.
That is precisely what Dr. Gary Chapman's new book is about. We are two imperfect people trying to live in unity- to become one. Marriage is not easy. As a wife, succumbing to my husbands will is not natural. My flesh cries out to do what I want to do. My husband has had to learn to lead not just himself in his walk with Christ, but also his children and his wife.
The Marriage You've Always Wanted is not a cure all, easy button fix for marriages. However, it does offer great helps and insights for looking into yourself to find your own flaws, bad habits and sins. Sounds fun, right? Of course not!! No one wants to acknowledge they aren't perfect. Dr. Chapman believes that if we can first fix ourselves and get our own spirits right with God then it will be much easier for us to do right by our spouses. I know it sounds crazy but I can personally attest that his beliefs and ideas are founded in truth. I spent months focusing on my heart and my purpose. After so long, I noticed a difference in my husband. He was responding to the changes I God made in me!! It was amazing!
Whether you are looking to improve communication because "he doesn't listen when I speak!", or you are simply seeking practical ways to better your marriage, reading Dr. Gary Chapman's new book will undoubtedly benefit you and your spouse. God can do the impossible if you are willing to be molded, trust me... I am living proof. :)
Want your own copy? It is available for purchase for $15.99 by Moody Publishers. This and Dr. Chapman's other books can be found on the Five Love Languages website.
And now for the Giveaway!
I have a habit of needing the sheets and blanket just right to be able to sleep. If a corner comes untucked we both have to get up so I can straighten out the sheets and blanket before we can climb back into bed. I have woken my husband up because a corner had popped off the mattress and the top sheet was untucked so I could get it all straight.
ReplyDeleteOh my! :) I'm guilty of stealing the sheets and covers, leaving just the corners for my husband.
DeleteI think one habit I have and one that I think drives my husband nuts is that I am too accommodating. I am not sure if that is the right word, but if asked what I'd like for ______ or what would I like to do, I will answer 'whatever you like' or 'it doesn't matter to me' or something along those lines.
ReplyDeleteMy bad habit that drives my husband nuts the most is my slobishness. Is that a word? Well it is now. :)
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